Online Dating Pros and Cons

While online dating has been accepted in the mainstream as a valid and even entertaining way to meet people, there are still some people who have their reservations.  The “online dating” world still carries a stigma that’s different from meeting people in the offline world - a stigma that perhaps the people you find online aren’t as desirable as the people who don’t “need” to try online dating.

The truth is, like anything else, online dating has its own pros and cons, as well as advantages and disadvantages against traditional dating.  Here are the pros and cons of online dating.

Pros:

-Online dating gives you more options.  With online dating, you get access to people you easily wouldn’t have met otherwise, and you get to pick and choose your favorites in a way that traditional dating doesn’t allow.  You can choose to e-mail your “type” of woman, for example, or if you’re a woman, you’ll get to more easily “screen” who you let talk to you.

-Online dating can easily fit into your lifestyle.  For people without a lot of time on their hands, online dating can handle some of the courtship for them - even while they’re at work, or busy doing chores.  For example, you might receive e-mails and other communications while you’re busy doing something else.  If you handled dating in the traditional way, this simply wouldn’t be possible.

-Presenting yourself.  Online, you get the opportunity to make a first impression that’s almost totally under your control.  You control the pictures you post, the words you use, and even your first message to someone who piques your interest.  In real life, you might find yourself getting caught in a “bad moment” in which it is more difficult to approach the man or woman of your desires.

Cons:

-Immediacy.  In the real world, you get a chance to get immediate feedback on your approach or your appearance - you don’t have to wait for delayed responses.  While this might in itself be a good or bad thing - depending on the feedback you get - it does help you make progress in your dating life at a much faster rate.

In short, online dating has pros and cons like any other dating strategy, but if you know how to implement it, you can make it work for you.  Do some research, look at some successful online dating profiles, and you’ll be successfully dating in no time.

Finding the Right Online Dating Site For You

If you’ve just decided to enter the world of online dating, you might be asking yourself “what is the best place for me?”  After all, a quick Google search will yield a plethora of online dating sites, all of which advertise different features, prices, and membership lists.  Where does one even start?

Well, start by looking in the mirror.  What’s right for you?  You’ll want to ask yourself this question before starting the online dating process anyway.  Here are some other handy questions you might ask to find the right online dating site:

-What’s more important:  amount of people on the site, or the quality of service?  There are plenty of online sites that offer a lot of members - and with a lot of members comes more opportunity for success - but you don’t want this to be the only variable you consider.  Would you rather talk to a lot of people, or would you rather like a site that has better service and more convenient ways to meet people who mesh well with your personality?

-How does the online dating site match people up?  Do they offer matches for you, or do you have to take the initiative?  If you’re really not reliant on online dating for your dating success, then you’ll probably be more interested in a site that matches you up with the appropriate people.  However, if you are really looking for a date or two to result of your online dating endeavors, be willing to take the initiative yourself to make things happen.

-What kind of people seem to log on?  Take demos and previews, usually offered for free by most online dating sites.  This will give you a clue as to the kind of people you might expect to meet online - free sites often have plenty of members, but members that, because they haven’t committed to the online dating financially, won’t be as dedicated to finding you as you are them.  Take a preview of these online dating sites and explore - does it “feel” right or not?

-What are your ultimate goals?  If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, you’ll want to meet someone via a site like eHarmony, which is looking to match up compatible people.  If you’re just looking for a few dates, you might try a free site like PlentyOfFish.com, in which you can meet a lot of people and send a lot of messages in order to find that person you’re looking for.



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